Talk about putting a foot in your mouth.
Sometimes telling someone what you think they should do is just NOT a good idea. Sometimes giving ill-advised advice can get you in a whole heap of trouble. And “sometimes” just came around for Cris Carter.
“In his first television appearance since his controversial remarks came to light over the weekend, ESPN analyst Cris Carter on Monday apologized for telling rookies they should have a “fall guy” when they get in trouble.
The Hall of Fame wide receiver has been lambasted for an NFL-approved video in which he told new NFC players at the 2014 NFL Rookie Symposium that it was important to have friends who would take the rap if the players got in legal trouble.
‘In case y’all not going to decide to do the right thing, if y’all got a crew, you’ve got to have a fall guy in the crew,’ Carter told the rookies. ‘Y’all not going to all do the right stuff now. So I’ve got to teach you how to get around all this stuff, too. If you’re going to have a crew, one of them fools got to know he going to jail. We’ll get him out.’
On ESPN’s ‘Monday Night Countdown,’ the Hall of Fame wide receiver said, ‘My heart was in the right place. I didn’t use words that I was very proud of. It’s not the kind of advice I would offer young people. I would never tell young people to break the law to avoid prosecution. It was bad advice. I really regret my words.’
Carter tweeted an apology on Sunday, ‘Seeing that video has made me realize how wrong I was. I was brought there to educate young people and instead I gave them very bad advice. Every person should take responsibility for his actions. I’m sorry and I truly regret what I said that day.’
Carter, who said he has spoken to rookies at the symposium 15-20 times over the years, said Monday, ‘I hope I learn from it, and I hope it makes me better.’
ESPN said in a statement, ‘We completely disagree with Cris’ remarks, and we have made that extremely clear to him. Those views were entirely his own and do not reflect our company’s point of view in any way.’”
And so today’s lesson is this: if we’re going to say anything at all, we should speak the truth in love. That means telling it straight and telling it right; because sometimes you must have the fortitude to say what folks don’t want to hear. Giving folks a back door to do dirt is not advice; it’s compromise.
The truth doesn’t need to hurt or be cold and hard to be heard. Jesus spoke and the masses gladly heard him. Jesus spoke with authority, and he didn’t beat around the bush or banter around the barn. So let your words be choice and let them be few. Isn’t that what the “Good Book” says?
Be not rash with thy mouth, and let not thine heart be hasty to utter anything before God: for God is in heaven, and thou upon earth: therefore let thy words be few.
For a dream cometh through the multitude of business; and a fool’s voice is known by multitude of words.
Ecclesiastes 5:2-3, KJV